Have you ever tried to get out of reading that same book to your child over and over again or watching the same movie time after time? Do you try to skip to the end hoping they won't catch on? You may tire of the monotony, but they are learning. They are like sponges soaking in every word, movement, color and action. The world is a new place of adventure for them.
Now, think about how that relates to your interaction with them. Don't you think they are watching your every move and listening to every word you say, too? They are learning from you how they should react to various situations. What happens when things don't go your way? Do you get mad, curse and slam doors? They're going to do the same thing. Do you take some time to be by yourself and tell others how you are feeling? Do you work out the problem in a positive way? They take mental notes and imitate their role models. Imitation is a way of connection.
Once a child starts learning negative behaviors, they can be very difficult to undo and re-teach. Well into adulthood, we find ourselves saying and doing things our parents did. If a person learned how to be manipulative to get their way in childhood, it will take a lot of effort to become honest as they grow up.
Parents and caregivers may end up blaming the child if they continually behave badly. They may shun the child for their behavior without taking responsibility for what they helped create. If we want a good kid, we have to be good adults. We need to realize our problems and fix them, so they are not passed down to our children. The work is worth it.
Now, think about how that relates to your interaction with them. Don't you think they are watching your every move and listening to every word you say, too? They are learning from you how they should react to various situations. What happens when things don't go your way? Do you get mad, curse and slam doors? They're going to do the same thing. Do you take some time to be by yourself and tell others how you are feeling? Do you work out the problem in a positive way? They take mental notes and imitate their role models. Imitation is a way of connection.
Once a child starts learning negative behaviors, they can be very difficult to undo and re-teach. Well into adulthood, we find ourselves saying and doing things our parents did. If a person learned how to be manipulative to get their way in childhood, it will take a lot of effort to become honest as they grow up.
Parents and caregivers may end up blaming the child if they continually behave badly. They may shun the child for their behavior without taking responsibility for what they helped create. If we want a good kid, we have to be good adults. We need to realize our problems and fix them, so they are not passed down to our children. The work is worth it.
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